Dating White Men while learning from white women

Like many black women, I had a issue with black men dating outside of their race. I could not understand why and I hated it. As I have gotten older and matured some what, my view has changed greatly on this issue. I do not have a problem with brothers who decide to date outside of their race but I have a issue with the ones who do it and put black women down in the process. But that is a whole other topic for a different post.

Two weeks ago I went to a party hosted by Vivica Fox at a very nice club in Houston. Mostly everyone in the club was black. Two beautiful white women walked in the club and almost head in the crowd turned to look at them as they entered. Within minutes I would say about 10 brothers had approached them trying to be the lucky fellow to gain the opportunity to get to know them. Many of the black women in the club began to whisper and give angry stares. As a black women I knew immediately what they were thinking. But, at that very moment I had a epiphany. If sisters want to date outside their race it is necessary for us to go places and be the ones to stand out.

The following week I went out on a date with a guy to a new happening street named Washington in Houston. There are a variety of clubs and bars on this street and it is great because you can bar hop without paying a cover charge. The bar I went to was mostly white with the exceptions of a few black men. Walking through the door I felt like the white girls from the week before. Everyone was looking I believe because we were black on top of the fact my date was 6 foot 5. I did not pay it any mind until my date turn to get me a date and several white men started trying to start a conversation. These white men had confirmed my epiphany.

As a young single black women, I am aware of the stats out on my changes of getting married. Therefore, I am doing what I can to compete. Instead of hating on the white women who are dating black men. We could actually learn from them. Be aggressive and step out of your comfort zone. Go where you are the only one and heads are sure to turn. We are beautiful women with a lot to offer any man of any race. Dating is hard when the options are slim and the competition is thick but I am figuring out how to use it to my advantage kinda.